It's a morbid thought but have you considered that when you die and move on to your next journey, how would you like people to remember you?

Growing up in the Midwest in the 70s and 80s meant attending a funeral, where a pastor or someone read from the bible and usually involved an open casket.  Where lets face it, you got to see a dead body.  You got all dressed up in your best clothes.  Usually something dark, preferably black.  It was a somber occasion.  People were sad.  Talked quietly.

It was uncomfortable and generally, not something to look forward to.

More recently, when my wife's grandfather passed it was along those same lines, but he was cremated, it was a little more relaxed, and his friends and family talked about the good memories.  When my aunt passed last fall, we hopped in the car, drove around the place she grew up and talked with my Dad about the good times and good memories.  She was cremated as well.

With the price of caskets, land, etc.  I think the trend is moving away from that.  Or am I just experiencing a 'left coast' trend?

Edith, who used to run the company I worked at, sent me a nice email congratulating me on the new job and in it mentioned attending a 'party' to remember someone who passed away recently.  The box/ashes/whatever was on a table at the party.  And I'm sure they did more laughing, remembering, and discussing about that individuals life.

I thought it was a great way to reflect on how someone may have touched your life.

Now is the time to discuss this with your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/family.  Don't be afraid to take the path less traveled.  Life is what you make of it.

Later.